How To Clear Anxiety, Sadness or Anger In60 Seconds Or Less
by Oshana Himot, MBA
Life Coach and Reiki Master
How often do you wish that you could feel happy, productive and positive when you are feeling angry, anxious or sad? The good news is that you can and in a minute or less!
I have found that one of the keys to changing our emotions is to clear the judgment we have about having these feelings in the first place. I'd like to share with you an experience I had which showed me that I could release feelings of disappointment by clearing the self-judgment I had about it.
I was on a writing retreat in Sedona, Arizona and was sleeping in my car. A friend of mine invited me to stay at her house for a few days during my retreat. The evening that we were supposed to get together, she called to tell me that she had to postpone our plans.
My friend does emotional/spiritual work with people and often needs time to recover. Even though I understood this completely, I could not help feeling disappointed. I used every method I knew to release this feeling, and it only grew stronger.
Then I realized that I was judging myself for feeling disappointed. It was the self-judgment I needed to release even more than the disappointment.
I pictured the self-judgment in front of me and brought it into my heart chakra, which is located between the breasts at the breastbone. To my surprise, the disappointment went away immediately!
This experience taught me the power of the heart to dissolve our fears. I know this because a few months later I was in Sedona again and the same thing happened. This time I was able to laugh and joke about it with my friend. The "charge" that had been there before was now gone.
SELF-JUDGMENT EXERCISE
Here is the exercise I used to release self-judgment.
Close your eyes and picture a situation in which you are judging yourself. Bring the self-judgment out in front of you now.
On a scale of 1 - 10, rate it with 10 being the highest.
Now bring it into your heart and let the love you have for yourself melt it away. Be with your experience for a few minutes.
Rate the self-judgment again. Where is it on a scale of 1 - 10? Repeat this exercise 2 or 3 times until you feel it get lighter or disappear completely.
Now, how do you feel about the cause of your self-judgment? Has it changed at all?
What new choices are opening for you now? Journal about them and any new insights or changes you are experiencing each day for 60 days. Acknowledge and nurture your new growth.
You can do this exercise any time, even at work. The key to this exercise and other ones I will show you ... is the heart. The energy of the heart is love, which is more powerful than any other emotion in our lives.
Use this exercise for any emotion you are having ... anger, sadness, anxiety, or any other feeling which is not what you want to be feeling.
Love heals all fear. These emotions as well as others, express fear in some way.
We may be using our anger to cover up disappointment, sadness and hurt. Underneath these may be the fear of being abandoned or alone. When we trace any emotion to its core, we find there is a fear of something happening in our lives that we don't want to happen. These fears are often created by experiences we have had. We cover up the fear often because we do not have the skills to deal with it in a constructive way.
Until we face our core fear or fears, we will always be running away from them and compensating for them with behavior which is not authentic or fulfilling.
TALKING TO YOUR FEARS EXERCISE
Another way to clear a fear is to picture it outside of us and talk to it. It can be a fear of something or it can be another person. It can be any of the emotions we talked about above. Dialogue with it or them, back and forth. As these emotions or fears are just energy, we are talking with an energy which is part of us.
When one "person" finishes, trade places and become the other "person" again. Do this until you find some resolution or a common understanding that you are both happy with.
THE SENDING LOVE EXERCISE
A third way to dissolve fear is to place it out in front of you and go into your heart. Find and feel the peace of your heart center. Now send this love energy to the fear by breathing into your heart area and then sending love to it when you breath out. Breathe slowly and deeply as you inhale and exhale. Do this three times.
Now stop and take a minute to see how you feel. There should be a shift in the emotion you are working with.
These are some fast and easy ways to change fear back into love. Practice these and let new insights come to you. As your fears subside, you will discover new ways to resolve situations and issues with other people and you can start experiencing more joy and peace in your life.
For any issue you are working with, it is a good idea to use these exercises or others for a minimum of 60 days. I recommend keeping a journal where you can jot down the positive changes you are experiencing in your life and the action steps you are taking as well.
The best scenario I have found in creating new habits of thought, feeling and action is to decide on an action, take the action, evaluate how it worked, refine it and take a new action. Do this until you achieve the desired result.
We hope these exercises give you more freedom in making empowering choices for your life. Let us know how you are doing. Feel free to email us at dhimot@yahoo.com.
Oshana Himot is an oracle. She teaches people how to resolve issues in their life through love and compassion. She practices as both a business and life coach and energy practitioner and is an Awakenings Practitioner and Reiki Master. She has just started a new website business called To Go Beyond, which focuses on empowering people by teaching them self-help skills for physical and emotional wellbeing. If you would like more in-depth work on clearing your emotions or making new choices for your life, sign up for our free newsletter or for a coaching or healing session at www.togobeyond.com.