When The Mind Says 'Fear'
And The Heart Says 'Safe'By Dr. Lilian
Transformational Counselor, Spiritual Advisor and Hypnosis-Meditation Specialist
How many of us have desired something so bad that we eventually received that very thing we were truly wanting? This is an example of a heart wanting something and you took actions toward receiving “it”. Now, there are other times when we want something, kind of desire it, and then think about it for a while because we aren’t sure if we really want it or not. Then we come across something that we should be acting upon, because we desire it, but turn away from it because it scares us to have it. We make excuses for the last point, and funny enough, while the mind says NO, the heart says YES. This running from when we should go to is the problem most of us have in life. What happens next is we ignore or fight off what we know is great for us. Then, we continue our daily existence and begin to regret, or blame someone else, or just feel out of sorts not understanding why.
The main cause of this is so simple yet very difficult to over-ride if we don’t know how. When our mind says “fear” and the heart says “safe” we tend to go with our mind chatter because we have been conditioned to do so. Well, what will my family think, or I don’t want to relocate, or I know I can take this other job which I’ve always dreamt of but what if I fail at it, who’s going to pay my bills?
Too many of us listen to what others think about us or we feel inadequate when the opportunity arises. Then, we continue to do the same thing, over and over again, believing that life has to be the way it is. This is only a perception held unto by conditioning, set off by some past disappointment(s) maybe big ones, which in turn lead to a questionable self-love and worth? Now, think about this statement: Looking back on your life, didn’t you receive everything your heart truly desired and you set your mind toward establishing it (mind and heart)? Everything in your life up until this point you programmed.
Reflect upon every situation up until this point. Now, why worry, feel anxious, or doubt yourself about what will happen tomorrow when today you can act upon with faith knowing all will work out for you at the end? Every step you take, while leading with your heart, your mind will follow through with important acts to get you to where you want to be. The following are a few more points to remember and to remind yourself that by following your heart first (safe) the adjustments made to the mind will link you to your next fulfillment. Finally, your mind can say good-bye to fear when it visits because it trusts the heart!
Five quick tips toward self-empowerment:
1. You own your power. Think about those times when you thought you were too afraid to do something and accomplished “it” successfully. How did you feel after accomplishing that very thing you were frightened of? Know that you can do the same again and that it will work out for you because you wanted this event/situation to finally come to you.
2. If you are the kind of person who likes to live in the past and cannot move forward because of some “thing” that really upset you, think about the times you were really happy because of something great that happened. Don’t you believe something great can happen again? You have nothing to loose, except more fulfillment if you keep putting off “x”.
3. When you feel fear visualize yourself in the situation you want but fear. Act the role in your head. How do you feel? Work on this visualization technique every day for at least 5 minutes until you feel confident to again make the move toward what your heart says “yes” to. Think about changing your “fear” habit with this new habit of “visualization”. Soon, you will find the new habit replaces the old!
4. Think back again to all that you desired and thought about which successfully worked out for you. Think about what “like attracts like” means. Do you notice how when you desire something and think about it in a positive light you see “it” everywhere? And, eventually you receive it. I can assure you that people will come in to help you achieve your desires. You only need to make that first step. Visualization is the perfect first step!
5. Think about the word “intention” and what that means. Have you noticed that when you intend on something, this “thing” comes to you? So, the next time a great opportunity arises and you fear it, remember your heart intended it and now it’s here for you. You are ready for the very thing you wanted. If you think about it in this way your mind will release all the “old ways” of behaving once you program the fact that you are ready and now “that thing” is here.
Dr. Lilian is an internationally known Transformational Counselor and Spiritual Advisor who has worked with many from around the world. To learn more about Dr. Lilian and her work, or if you would like to set up a consultation, please e-mail Dr. Lilian at drlilian@asklilian.com. Visit her website at http://www.asklilian.com