Finding Yourself With
'Companions of Destiny'
by Amara Rose
Professional Certified Coach
What we're really seeking is a piece of ourselves, which is why we often feel incomplete when we hook up with someone whom we hope will fill the empty place inside us. The wedding of the light and the dark, of the magnetic, receptive self and the dynamic, assertive self, has to take place first within our own being. And yet - it's through relationship that we get there! I'll illustrate this apparent paradox with a personal example.
I recently forged a profound heart connection with what The Mayan Oracle (a book and card set based on the Mayan sacred calendar) calls a "companion of destiny." We unfolded deep layers of love within ourselves through the conscious soul work we did together. Then he was gone, and as much as I know we are all One, as much as I am expanding into a greater knowing and loving because of the place he awakened in me, still there is a poignancy, a longing that lingers.
I'm stretching to allow this love to be a lens I look through all the time, and not peg it to one individual. The gift of my companion's essence, what we shared, lives on inside me, so in a sense, I feel like I'm missing myself. It's a strange sensation - like seeing my reflection and wondering where the mirror is.
The way out is always through, and the way through lies in joining with other companions on the path. When I find and connect with my spiritual siblings, my sense of fullness grows. From this strength, the familiar heartache we all know transmutes into a sort of laughing pain; it doesn't really hurt, because my high self knows the truth.
The beloved is a catalyst to help us merge the complementary aspects of our being. This is a radical idea, and challenging to hold. It turns everything we believe about romantic love on its head.
A friend of mine also entered into a relationship recently, knowing at the outset that it would be brief. Her partner had made clear that his life mission would take him elsewhere. Now she feels pain. I congratulated her instead on her courage. She will not look back at the end of her life and wonder, "What if?…" She chose to walk a road that was being paved three feet in front of her.
Becoming whole - embodying our masculine and feminine energies, both within ourselves and as a planetary organism - is the creative quest of our time. It's about affinity, like attracting like. In this ripe moment of personal and collective possibility, we're all beginning to remember who we are on a soul level, and to integrate these energies as never before. Whether we call these complements yin/yang, lunar/solar, magnetic/dynamic, receptive/assertive, or light/dark sides, in essence it's about sacred reunion. As we are able to celebrate this marriage first in our own hearts, the joy and the love we then have available to share in relationship increases exponentially.
I invite you to sound the clarion call for your own companions of destiny - those who can see and honor your authentic self. The Mayan Oracle says, "When you have been truly seen, you feel empowered, and remembrance of a shared sacred trust is ignited."
If you feel caught up in what I like to call "The Big E" (expectation), know that it's OK. You're just butting up against some pretty deep cultural conditioning. And we can de-condition from our deep conditioning. Try some Spirit shampoo, and as one friend humorously remarked, "Don't forget to rinse!"
© 2001 Amara Rose
Amara Rose, professional certified coach, is deeply committed to guiding others on the path of personal and planetary transformation. Adept at bridging the mainstream and metaphysical, she offers one-on-one coaching sessions, telegatherings, and her signature Eve-o-lution Discovery Salons, which facilitate the integration of our feminine and masculine selves. Amara is the author of the CD/cassette, What You Need To Know Now-A Road Map for Personal Transformation, available through her website, and a contributor to many health, business and new thought publications. She may be reached at http://www.liveyourlight.com or by E-mail at Amara@liveyourlight.com, or by calling 707-522-9529.